Insecurity: Love’s Deadliest Poison

Insecurity: Love’s Deadliest Poison

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Emotional instability among partners particularly insecurities is defined as the inadequate intactness of being secured. Your significant other is extremely dependent on the relationship to define his or her personal worth or value during a given period. Individual insecurities are manifested when these have to take precedence in times of crisis that needs to be addressed as soon as possible. If these poisons of life will continue, it would ruin a couple’s teamwork. Some of the most common symptoms of being not secured are the following: Anxiety, paranoia, fears of loss and an increasing need to be reassured. Consequently, the said negative polarities of human behavior lower your self-esteem  However, always remember that confidence in its entirety is a relative experience. On the other hand, if the feeling goes beyond your control curb it the best way that you can.

There are six main types of insecurities namely genetics, environmental stressors, fears of disappointment, conflict aversion,  dependency, and broken trust. In brief, here are its descriptions.
  • Genetics- Involves the presence of extreme reactions against threats since birth, making these people hypervigilant and more watchful against imminent danger. This is due to some specific hormones of human anatomy.
  • Environmental Stressors- People who have suffered from traumatic experiences during childhood posses intense fight or flight reactions when threats beset them. Among these are broken promises, tragic incidents, and inevitable losses in life.
  • Fear of Disappointing- Generally, this is characterized by being discounted by significant people around us. Usually, this is a feeling of not meeting human expectations. As a result, the fear of being unloved becomes evident.
  • Conflict Aversions- Insecure people are not willing to take chances, which could develop the ability and explore new opportunities. It pertains to the inability of a person to handle tensions or conflicts. Whenever he or she feels some dissonance, surrendering might be the ultimate resort to maintain personal security.
  • Dependency-A person’s behavior is defined by the hypervigilance of one’s partner and an increasing succulence on the support responses of a loved one and an irrational fear that their relationship will end.
  • Broken Trust- Partners who have been abused, abandoned, or betrayed in the past. Insecure people allow past experiences to rule over their future behavior.

To make insecurities resolvable, here are some of the most effective reversal strategies. These are Mattering, agency, spiritual connection, fallback networks, acceptability of one’s marketability, not letting the past define your future, and a better understanding of the major difference between abandonment and disappearing among others.

Cheryle Baviera

I am a Filipina blogger who loves to write anything under the sun. Though i was born with physical limitations, success is always a motivating factor for me to soar high like an eagle in any endeavor that i choose to engage in.

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